Why Hate Valentine’s Day?

It’s that time of year again, when the entire world is split into three camps: the lovers, the haters and those who couldn’t care less. Despite the day’s focus on romance, there seems to be a huge amount of bitterness and hostility between the lovers and haters of Valentine’s Day, and I’ve never understood why. Personally, I love Valentine’s Day – I don’t go out of my way to plan something special every year, nor do I buy or expect expensive gifts and gestures. I just really like the idea of a holiday that’s sole focus is romance.

Matthew and I are both thrifty (well, you have to be when you’re a poor student) romantics at heart, so Valentine’s Day has never been a chore for us. Last year, we made a huge blanket fort, watched films and slept in the living room. It was memorable, cute as hell and it meant we could spend the whole night being totally together. Sure, we could have done that any other day of the year too, but our blanket fort felt like a great idea for Valentine’s Day. This year, we’re making our own pizzas, having a glass of wine and watching a film – for us, that’s perfect.

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The busy parents, unhappy singletons and those who are struggling either physically or mentally, simply can’t and/or don’t want to celebrate, and of course I understand that. However, there are also some popular yet trivial problems that people tend to have with Valentine’s Day, and although I recognise them, I really do not understand them.

I love my partner every single day of the year, not just on Valentine’s Day:

Of course, me too! But, I also don’t see any harm in saying “Happy Valentine’s Day!” instead of “Morning!” when I wake up – either way, Matt still gets a kiss and a cuddle.

You can’t celebrate when you’re single:

Sure you can. Go see your mum or your grandma and, if you have some money, buy them a bunch of flowers. Celebrate with your single friends. Why not just have a night in, with your favourite food and favourite film? Valentine’s Day is about celebrating love, not just romantic love. Celebrate familial love, friendship and self-love.

It’s a day for couples to rub their relationships in other people’s faces:

Definitely not. If love, or seeing love in others, bothers you then you’re clearly going through some hardship that you need to take control of. If you’re not and simply seeing happy couples genuinely bothers you, you have issues and your hate should not be projected onto the happiness of others. That’s your problem, sort it out.

It’s just another money grabbing holiday:

Yep, probably, but who is making you spend money? Romance isn’t expensive gifts and extravagant date nights. It can be a homemade meals, or making your own Valentine’s Day cards. Self-love doesn’t have to be expensive either. No need for fancy spas: run yourself a bubble bath and paint your toe nails.

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There’s no need to hate Valentine’s Day. Even if you don’t celebrate, you have to admit, it’s a pretty cute idea. Love is in the air today, so don’t shoot it down.

What do you think of Valentine’s Day?

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Hey There, New Hair!

Evening, lovelies! I’ve been putting this post off for a couple of months now, to be honest. I knew that sharing this would have to include a big old cheesy selfie featuring my new hair, and I’ve been a little embarrassed to post one! Oh well, let’s do this.

One of my chosen challenges for the 101 Things in 1001 Days project was to get my hair cut and coloured professionally for the first time – I’m almost 22 and, before this, I hadn’t had my hair dyed by an actual hairdresser. It was about time, really. I’ve been blonde, strawberry blonde, ginger, red and very, very red but never brown (apart from that stupidly temporary wash-out dye I tried when I was in school, but that doesn’t count). I was properly craving a change! I absolutely loved my red hair, but I was started to feel very self-concious and I knew I wouldn’t be happy with my appearance again if I didn’t give it a go… so I did. From bright, ruby red to a dark, glossy brown – voilà!

Hey There, New Hair

Technically, this finished look wasn’t created by a hairdresser. After spending a horrific amount of money on a professional hairdo (and 4 hours of my life that I’ll never get back), I came home absolutely mortified. It was dead and dry. It was patchy and I could see at least 5 different colours and shades muddled together – and not the whole natural multiple colours either, the bad muddle. It was awful and I was so sad. It wasn’t even brown although that’s what I asked for! It was a faded red/ash/ginger. Seriously, it wasn’t very nice at all.

I left it a month, because I didn’t want to risk killing my hair any more with a too-soon dye, then I grabbed a couple of dark brown box dyes with a huge ‘fuck it’. 30 minutes later, I had the most beautiful shade of dark brown I could have asked for.

Honestly, I’m over the moon. I feel like I’ve always been a brunette. I once talked about my struggles with being accepted socially because of the prejudice and judgement I faced at university in such a male-dominated industry, which you can read here. For some reason though (probably the placebo effect), I feel as if that doesn’t apply to me anymore.

Yes, I’ve got banging brown hair and I’ve finally ticked a big one off my 101 Things in 1001 Days project! Win, win :).

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Whatcha think? Have you ever had a huge change in your appearance?

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-Morgan

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Pretty Positive

“Believe in yourself”

Thursdays are probably the most difficult day of the week for me. It’s so close to Friday, yet still far enough to be a pain – it’s a tease! On top of that, I was also feeling a little bit more down in the dumps than usual and a bit disheartened about my blog, hobbies, body and appearance. I guess I was just having a bit of a bad day.

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Today, I could have done with a little positivity. I can’t turn back time but I can try to spread a little happiness instead!

Breathe, smile and make every day count.

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The beautiful, watercolour illustration I used was created by an artist called Feeling Poh. I’m not one for inspirational quotes but I do love art. There’s no disputing her talent!

How are you feeling today?

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-Morgan

10 Random Acts of Kindness

I’d love to think I’m a kind person: I’m polite, empathetic, caring and I am forever thinking I can change the world for the better. I also enjoy sharing the love and making other people’s day. That’s why I think random acts of kindness are so heart-warming. Admittedly, I don’t strive to perform 10 random acts of kindness every single day (there isn’t enough time!) but when the moment comes, whether that’s holding the door for a stranger or helping someone pick up what they dropped, I’m always willing to be kind.

Being kind is a wonderful feeling and seeing kindness is just as fantastic! When I read a story about a wonderful stranger who went out of their way to help another human or animal, my faith in humanity is momentarily restored.

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Because it’s super difficult for us all to be globe-trotting charity workers who spend their days helping less fortunate people and animals or to be local heroes who do everything they can to improve the lifestyle of their neighbours, here are 10 random acts of kindness to get you started.

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1. Smile at a stranger. You never know, that could be the first smile they’ve had all day. You could make their day.

2. Clear out your old winter coats and donate them to a homeless shelter. Hats, gloves and blankets are appreciated too.

3. Volunteer at a local dog shelter for an hour or so. A lot of rescue shelters are looking for people to walk the dogs!

4. Compliment someone you know. “Your hair looks lovely” or “I love your top” could make them feel great. Boost their confidence.

5. Bin your rubbish. Whether your in the cafeteria, the park or the office, don’t leave your rubbish behind. It’s bad for the environment and it can ruin somebody else’s day.

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6. Donate blood. Nice and simple. Blood is always in demand. It could save someone’s life!

7. Let someone go in front of you in the shopping queue if you’ve noticed they only have a handful of items.

8. Talk to the elderly. A lot of older people, those without a close family, could go days without speaking to a soul.

9. Invest in an entrepreneur from a developing country with charities such as Kiva or Lend with Care. Help them build their business with a small loan! You’ll eventually be repaid and can then invest in somebody else’s business.

10. Ring a family member or a friend that you haven’t spoke to in a while! They probably miss you.

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Are you having a nice day? What’s the nicest thing that a stranger has ever done for you?

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101 Things in 1001 Days | Update

Good afternoon, lovely blog person, or “prevening” if we’re being more specific!

It’s been a while since I caught you up with my 101 Things in 1001 Days shenanigans, and I guess you’ve missed out on quite a few bits of awesomeness. I apologise. My last update was in October, when I tried to conquer my fear of heights (and horrifically failed) by going on a Ferris Wheel at the fair!

Hull Fair

My God, that was a huge mistake…Matt had to flag down the fair workers and get them to stop the wheel so I could get off… Never again.

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Since my last post, I’ve checked off lots of new things on my 101 Things in 1001 Days challenge. Some goods ones, too.

So, what’s new?

Films:

Me and Matt have been getting our film boots back on, after an embarrassingly long time away from our film friends. We ticked off a few movies for the “watch a film I’ve never seen before starting with each letter of the alphabet” task, including Deadpool (awesome film), and all of Daniel Craig’s Bond movies (so great). We also finally watched Avengers: Age of Ultron, but it was definitely worth the wait because it was a bloody fantastic film.

The Theatre:

In December and January, we were writing paid reviews for plays, so luckily I got to tick off my “watch a play” task! I saw Sleeping Beauty, Snow White and Miss Nightingale (an amazing play about sex, scandal and lies in 1940’s wartorn London).

Our Fort:

Now for the one that I’m most excited about… we built a blanket fort in the living room, and had a night full of sweets, beer, TV shows and games in our little Valentines blanket heaven. To be completely honest, blanket fort is a bit of a fib. It was more of a bed-sheet-held-up-with-string-and-nails fort. We also had to use my desk chair, a wooden table and a clothes horse to hold the thing up and support it throughout the night.

The fort was a fantastic way to spend Valentine’s Day (eve) though and it was definitely worth the hassle in the end.

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You can find my 101 Things in 1001 Days challenge here if you fancy checking out what I’ve got left to accomplish before May 11th 2018.

If you’re not already, I also highly recommend setting yourself a challenge like this. It has been a fantastic way to kind of force myself into doing different, new and exciting things. And, I get to share all of the new things I do with you. Win-win.

Share you challenges below if you have set yourself one!

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-Morgan

Day 1 | 3 Day Quote Challenge

Good evening lovelies,

I was nominated for the 3 Day Quote Challenge by my friend, Simon, and I’m sure you know by now that I am a quote queen. I love them. I hoard them. I’ll find incredible quotes in my favourite books and save them digitally somewhere on my laptop, in case I ever want to return to those magical words – all I can think of is Harry Potter… I must have a lot of Harry Potter quotes stored away somewhere.

A lot of quote queens (or kings) dog ear their books, or bookmark their favourite quotes with sticky notes to remember them, but you can’t take the tech away from a Computer Science student. Also, people who dog ear their books make me want to cry…

As always, there’s a few rules alongside this challenge, and because I’m a rebel (or lazy, which ever one you wanna go with) I’m not going to follow them completely. Instead, at the end of my challenge I’ll pass it on by nominating 3 bloggers who I believed would enjoy taking part.

Anyway, thanks again Simon! I hope you enjoy the 3 quotes I’ve got lined up for this challenge.

Ernest Hemingway

Today’s quote is a snippet from Ernest Hemingway’s memoir, A Moveable Feast:

 “The only thing that could spoil a day was people. People were always the limiters of happiness except for the very few that were as good as spring itself.”

―Ernest Hemingway

Ernest Hemingway

I can hugely relate… I think we all can. The world is full of unpopular opinions, stupid people and nasty actions. Wars are tearing families apart. Jeremy Kyle is a thing people aspire too. Recently, a group of people killed a poor dolphin after passing it around for selfies. Humans!

I’m glad I’ve found my little piece of spring itself.

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Here are the quotes and discussions from my two previous challenges:

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-Morgan

Happy New Year

After a hell of a lot of decision making, questioning the point of everything and “what ifs”, me and Matthew eventually decided that New Year’s Eve is better spent in the company of ourselves and our cats.

Instead, we bought ourselves a bottle of Jägermeister, a 12-pack of stubbies and spent the night listening to music and playing games. Ever heard of “Heads Up“? It’s a digitalised version of that family guessing game where you have headbands with words on, or stick post it notes to your forehead – it’s brilliant, and it had us in absolute stitches to a point where we almost missed the countdown to 2016!

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After a loud, late night, today will be spent doing absolutely nothing. We had plans to go to The Deep (an aquarium) and take a walk around the marina, but I can’t shake this headache… We can always do that tomorrow, instead.

Marina Hull

Right on my doorstep. We’re very lucky to live in the city centre.

Matthew, the absolute sweetheart, made me a nest on the sofa, with cushions, blankets and a quilt. The candles are lit. I have everything I need to read, write, plan and relax right by my side, and a cat by my feet. It was clearly a ploy to distract me with cosiness, so he could play Batman on the Xbox all day, but win win!

So, today is going to be a quiet start to the new year. I’m conserving my energy. 2016 will be a completely exhausting year.

Happy New Year!

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What are your plans for today? Family goodness, lazy self-indulgence?

-Morgan

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