Why Hate Valentine’s Day?

It’s that time of year again, when the entire world is split into three camps: the lovers, the haters and those who couldn’t care less. Despite the day’s focus on romance, there seems to be a huge amount of bitterness and hostility between the lovers and haters of Valentine’s Day, and I’ve never understood why. Personally, I love Valentine’s Day – I don’t go out of my way to plan something special every year, nor do I buy or expect expensive gifts and gestures. I just really like the idea of a holiday that’s sole focus is romance.

Matthew and I are both thrifty (well, you have to be when you’re a poor student) romantics at heart, so Valentine’s Day has never been a chore for us. Last year, we made a huge blanket fort, watched films and slept in the living room. It was memorable, cute as hell and it meant we could spend the whole night being totally together. Sure, we could have done that any other day of the year too, but our blanket fort felt like a great idea for Valentine’s Day. This year, we’re making our own pizzas, having a glass of wine and watching a film – for us, that’s perfect.

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The busy parents, unhappy singletons and those who are struggling either physically or mentally, simply can’t and/or don’t want to celebrate, and of course I understand that. However, there are also some popular yet trivial problems that people tend to have with Valentine’s Day, and although I recognise them, I really do not understand them.

I love my partner every single day of the year, not just on Valentine’s Day:

Of course, me too! But, I also don’t see any harm in saying “Happy Valentine’s Day!” instead of “Morning!” when I wake up – either way, Matt still gets a kiss and a cuddle.

You can’t celebrate when you’re single:

Sure you can. Go see your mum or your grandma and, if you have some money, buy them a bunch of flowers. Celebrate with your single friends. Why not just have a night in, with your favourite food and favourite film? Valentine’s Day is about celebrating love, not just romantic love. Celebrate familial love, friendship and self-love.

It’s a day for couples to rub their relationships in other people’s faces:

Definitely not. If love, or seeing love in others, bothers you then you’re clearly going through some hardship that you need to take control of. If you’re not and simply seeing happy couples genuinely bothers you, you have issues and your hate should not be projected onto the happiness of others. That’s your problem, sort it out.

It’s just another money grabbing holiday:

Yep, probably, but who is making you spend money? Romance isn’t expensive gifts and extravagant date nights. It can be a homemade meals, or making your own Valentine’s Day cards. Self-love doesn’t have to be expensive either. No need for fancy spas: run yourself a bubble bath and paint your toe nails.

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There’s no need to hate Valentine’s Day. Even if you don’t celebrate, you have to admit, it’s a pretty cute idea. Love is in the air today, so don’t shoot it down.

What do you think of Valentine’s Day?

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Saturday’s Super Six | Date Night Ideas

If you couldn’t already tell, me and Matt are hugely romantic and ridiculously in love. There’s not one person I would rather spend my time with, and I look forward to coming home to see him everyday after work. Can you love somebody too much? I doubt it, but I’m sure that’s a question for another day, another post.  However, because we both have hugely busy schedules, it’s hard to find the time or energy after work to plough through the hundreds of date night ideas we have. Until we can physically keep up with these early mornings and late nights, we’d much rather cuddle up under a blanket and play games or chat.

As lovely as our nights are, especially during these cold, Winter nights, it’s good to have ideas for when we’re perked up and full of energy.

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1. Go to your favourite restaurant:

Although it’s very much a cliché date idea, it’s still popular for a reason, especially if you don’t eat out often. It’s more exciting if you don’t do this regularly, and we don’t.

Not only do you have the food cooked for you in a lovely atmosphere, you don’t have to do the washing up! Bonus points there from Matt, the household pot washer!

2. Explore local (or maybe not so local) nature:

Visit the parks, the nature reserves, lakes and ponds in and around your home town. If it’s cold, get all wrapped up so it doesn’t ruin the outing. I think walking hand in hand around natural beauty is one of my favourite things to do.

Luckily, we have a relatively large park in our city, so the fact we don’t drive doesn’t hold us back too much.

It’s a good idea to bring a camera, and take pictures of the things you find. The ducks, the conkers, the different types of flowers. It will make you appreciate the smaller things, once you start to realise they’re there!

3. Make something together:

Cook, craft, write, cut and stick. There are endless ideas, they’ll all include communicating and working together and, bonus, you get to keep or eat your little creation afterwards!

Me and Matt do this quite often. We always cook together. We often play around with my art box, and one year we made our own anniversary cards. It creates a lot of precious memories.

4. “New home” window shopping:

This could be taken as literally as you like. If you’re a dreamer, like us, you’d probably enjoy open houses, viewing houses and searching the internet for all the beautiful, big homes that are for sale around you. Pretend you can afford them. 🙂

On the other hand, it’s nice to walk around the shops, in the home departments, looking at all the lovely ways you could decorate your own home. You could even pick up a couple of bits and bobs whilst you’re out, why not?

5. Games night!

Probably our most regular and favourite “home” date night idea. We won’t cook a proper meal for tea and decide on something to pick at instead – a giant bowl of chips or roast potatoes, spring rolls, little sandwiches, things like that. Then crack out the game of the night! It doesn’t have to be a digital game, though. How about a board game? Scrabble, Jenga, card games.

Then we put all the food, drink, snacks and sweets on a table and spend the night playing games together. Super fun, super indulgent and, if you’re anything like us, super competitive!

6. Be traditional, and visit the cinema, theatre or bowling alley.

Or why not all three? They’re super typical date ideas for a reason – they’re fun. Bowling and cinema come hand-in-hand for us, because they’re next door to each other! How convenient. If you drive, however, the distance between two local venues probably wouldn’t be an issue.

A game of bowling and a film could fill up a whole afternoon or evening, so it’s an ideal date night idea! The date can easily be cute and childish (playing in the amusements, watching a comedy at the cinema) or throw in a glass of wine and an Oscar-winning drama and you’ve got yourself something more ‘adult’.

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What’s your go-to date night? Do you have a favourite?

-Morgan

Happy “4 Years” To Us!

Yesterday, me and Matt celebrated 4 years together as a couple – easily the best 4 years of my life. In honour our relationship, we celebrated exactly how two huge, happy nerds could have – with tons of food, home made pizza, a marathon of Doctor Who and it was brilliant.
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We met in our first year of college. He decided that I am most definitely a princess, and I haven’t doubted him since! Believe it or not, he considered himself a bit of a bad boy and I still thought I was pretty cool at the time. When we both became more comfortable around each other in the coming months, we finally realised how deeply geeky we were and the bad boy/girl charade was soon lost!

I can’t remember a day since where we haven’t seen each other. We spent our days at college Monday to Friday and each weekend we’d spend our time out and about around Hull, sleeping at each others parent’s homes. Absence makes the heart grow fonder? I doubt it. I can’t imagine being able to love anyone as much as I love him. We always were and always have been completely there for each other. My absolute best friend.

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Our first Valentines Day, February 2012.

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Climbing near Forge Valley, July 2012

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Climbing near Forge Valley, July 2012

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New hair and fancy cameras, 2012

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Butlins near Christmas, 2012

In our final year of college, we were planning which universities we wanted to apply to and what our student accommodation would be like, but neither of us could imagine having to live in separating student housing. Instead, during the final Summer before university we both found full-time jobs and saved up a deposit for our first home (rented, but at 18 we didn’t expect much else)! It was most definitely the absolute best decision of our lives – we’re now sometimes at home, doing something completely ordinary and then it comes to us “when we lived with our parents, we really couldn’t do this…” or we’d remember how limiting it was as a couple to live in separate houses. It’s brought us so much closer.

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Early days in our new home! No proper furniture yet, August 2013.

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First Christmas dinner in our flat, December 2013

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New bikes, 2013

We’ve lived together over 2 years now, have been engaged for almost a full year (with the wedding on the horizon) and have been in a relationship for 4 years! That’s huge news for us! Here’s to an infinity more, Matt! *clinks beer cans*

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End of exams! 2014

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Carlton Towers wedding fair, March 2015

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Matt’s 21st, July 2015

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(I was going to apologise to my readers for the soppy post, but my life, my family, my blog and come on… we’re adorable!)

-Morgan

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