Before writing up my 101 Thing in 1001 Days challenge, I didn’t know this list of questions existed. Apparently, they’re quite often found on people’s bucket lists. When I found them, I knew I’d love to complete the challenge one day. Today is that day.
Unlike a lot of question posts, these aren’t digging for your average “about me” answers. They make you think. They make you question things – your future, your past, your happiness. They’re also a lot of fun to answer, which is why I want to complete them.
When I was young and the internet was terribly boring, I used to find giant lists of questions to answer and store them in public memos for my Myspace friends to read. Ah, nostalgia. I’d love to say people didn’t care and people didn’t read them, but they all did… We were all just as sad as each other. Humans are nosey!
Don’t worry, I’m not having some sort of quarter-life crisis. I just thought you’d be interested to see how I answered them! You might also be inspired to take on the challenge yourself.
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
Either 6 years old or 40 years old, depending on what mood I’m in. If I could actually choose though, I’d be 18. That was probably one of the best years of my life.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
For me, failing. I hate failing. I’d rather never try anything new again than fail.
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
We have to do the things we don’t like because society tells us that straying from the norm is a bad thing. Thankfully, this way of thinking seems like it’s finally starting to fade away.
Life’s too short to miss out on the things that make you happy!
4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
Probably, but that’s because I have so many ideas and so many plans that it would be practically impossible for me to do it all. There’s not enough time.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
This is a tough one! I’m conflicted between choosing war, poverty and hunger or equality. I think I’d most like to bring equality to the world. Surely, if skin colour, gender and religion didn’t divide people, the world would be a far more peaceful place.
Also, stop killing the planet, you monsters!
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
Anything creative. Wow, I’d be absolutely loaded.
7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
Right now, I’m settling. That’s not permanent though. After university, I’m hoping I’ll be brave enough to do exactly what I believe in.
Related: If I Could Do Anything…
8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
I doubt I would have spent 22 years of my life with one simple goal of ‘get an education’. I love education, really, and I’m so proud of how far I’ve come but 22 years would be over 50% of my life!
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
Erm, I’d say quite a lot. I don’t really take any shit from anyone. Recently, I’m following a path that I don’t necessarily want to be on, but it’s for the greater good. I know it will benefit my future. Although I dislike the path, I still made the concious decision to stay on it.
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
Honestly, doing things right. I don’t think I have a problem with worrying about doing the right thing. I’m sure that just comes naturally to me.
11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?
I wouldn’t stand for that. That’s not fair.
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
Of course. Without a second thought.
14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
Definitely, when I was younger and I didn’t know any better.
15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
The way I navigate socialising (or the lack of it) is quite different.
16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
This is something I struggle with in real life. Because me and Matt are so similar, when I’m with other people, it baffles me how the things I like are so unappealing to them. It’s weird. That’s humanity for you, though.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
I want to open an animal sanctuary. Money is holding me back.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
Definitely not. My future seems bright, no need to look back.
19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
Canada. Everything about Canada is welcoming. It has good health care, fantastic job prospects, an awesome Prime Minister and high social equality.
I’d also consider moving to Croatia, because… have you seen it?
20. Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
Nope and nope. Patience, friends.
21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
I worry anyway, so I may as well be a worried genius.
22. Why are you, you?
Because, kids, when mummies and daddies love each other very much, they do a special dance…
23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
Oh, definitely. I’d love to have me as a friend. I’m ridiculously empathetic, I’m a great listener and I’d take all your Instagram photographs for you, because what else are friends for?
24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?
Losing touch with a good friend who lives close by. That’s a choice. That’s rejection!
25. What are you most grateful for?
This is a bit difficult. Obviously, I’m grateful for my health and my home. I’m also insanely grateful for Matthew who’s made me happier than I’ve ever been before, my gorgeous kitties who fill such a void in my heart and my family who still love me even after I moved away from home.
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
My entire life revolves around memory. I photograph everything and keep thousands of mementos simply because I’m terrified about losing my memory. So, this is hard.
Initially, I was going to say I’d rather never make new memories, because letting go of my old, precious ones would be way too difficult. What if I gave up my old memories and then wound up in an accident and died? But, then again, I have a future. I’m getting married soon, I have a full life ahead of me. I can’t imagine not being able to remember it all.
I think I’d rather lose all of my old memories, but I’d be forever heartbroken about it. I’ve had some incredible moments throughout my short life so far.
27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
Yeah, without a doubt. “Is that a window? Yes.”
28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
My greatest fear is dying so… no. All of my other fears sprout from this main bad boy, and some of those have already come true.
29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?
Yes, and it will always matter. My heart still hurts to think about some of those things.
30. What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special?
Oh, this is a good one! I have so many wonderful childhood memories. I can’t particularly pin-point a specific memory though. All the times we went camping, pinching my dad’s style of music, all the hilarious car journeys, jiving with my mum, making silly videos with my brother… the list is endless.
31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
In one year, me and Matt made the decision to move into our first home together, got accepted into university, got our first jobs, saved up lots of money for a deposit, found a gorgeous city centre flat, moved into our flat and then proceeded to have the best few months before starting our first year of university.
That was amazing.
32. If not now, then when?
On Monday. It’s always Monday.
33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
You could fail.
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
I don’t walk up to people, stare at them and walk away, no. This sounds like it should be one of those romantic questions, but I don’t think it works. It’s just weird.
35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
Crazy people take things to the extreme. They take their religion, twist it, and make it fit whatever messed up ideal they’re trying to share.
36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
37. If you just won a million pounds, would you quit your job?
I’d continue until September to finish my internship, but I wouldn’t then quit my final year of university. However, I wouldn’t find a job after graduation. I could do so much good with a million pounds…
38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
This question depends on how much work you already do. I’d rather do lots of enjoyable work – like, dream job material. If it wasn’t dream job stuff, then give me less work and I’ll be fine.
39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
No, actually. I don’t feel like that at all.
40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
Hmm, I have a new idea every week. If anything, this is one of my downfalls.
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
Mum, dad and my brother, Jared.
Does Matt die in this scenario too? So, I lose all my family and the love of my life? I’d just rather die too, to be honest.
42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
No! Life is already too short.
43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
Alive is coping. Work, pay bills, sleep. Living is doing what makes you happy.
44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
When you have nothing left to lose. Until then, I’ll probably always calculate risks and rewards.
45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
I think it’s drilled into our heads from a young age that making mistakes is bad, so once we eventually understand that people can learn from their mistakes, it’s already too late.
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
Wow, so much.
47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
When I read this question, and involuntarily took a big, deep breath.
48. What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?
I love so much. I love too much and too hard. I think this blog post is full of lots of love, and so much honesty! Before then, I had a giant cuddle with Harley (one of my kitties).
49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that?
Not off the top of my head, no. I could always check my blog to see what I posted that day, or me and Matt could nosey through his “line a day for 5 years” dairy. I’d manage to remember if I tried hard enough!
50. Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?
I’m making them for myself. For sure.
Well, I enjoyed that! I hope you did too. If you feel like answering these questions, tag me or link me your blog posts – I’d love to see how you got on.
I actually feel really calm right now. I feel as if I just contemplated my whole past, future and now, coming out the other side a little more stable and a little more prepared.
What do you think?
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