What I Learned From Two Socially Awkward Years at University

Let’s start by painting a mental picture. Think of a typical group of 19/20 year old students. Think of student hobbies, think of student lifestyle, think of student housing and think of student mentality. Like most, I bet you thought of a group of young, wild, loud, messy, lazy teenagers who still rely on their parents for money which they eagerly waste on alcohol and noodles they eat out of the pan. Was I close?

In comparison, I felt like a 60 year old lady. Whilst the rest of my peers would head off to the student bar in between lectures, I’d head over to the library. As they returned to the student bar after class, I’d much rather head home to my tidy, cosy home where my cats, kettle and fluffy pyjamas await me. I must have been a bit naive to presume that just because I was studying a stereotypically ‘nerdy’ subject there wouldn’t be a whole lot of the above.

University of Hull

The University of Hull

Although I felt uncomfortable and awkward at first, eventually I realised it doesn’t matter. I lost the care for what people think about me long ago, probably when I was around 18 and fresh out of sixth form. I’d suffered enough public stress breakdowns from the work load to be embarrassed of taking pride in my education!

I realise not everybody (okay, more like barely anyone) my age who is studying at university is like me. Chances are you were/are probably just as wild at heart, but if you’re not that’s okay too. There is such a strong media presence of the ‘typical’ student, that people presume it’s the norm and follow in the footsteps of those before them. I’m settled and I’m happy. I’m lucky enough to have started a huge chapter of my life early, because I found my soul mate and my search is over. People have different priorities, different hobbies and different lifestyles.

If you happen to be starting your first year of university (or even are returning with a change of heart) and dreading this social situation,

  • Don’t let anybody force you into going anywhere/doing anything that makes you uncomfortable.
  • You’re not boring. You would simply much prefer to spend your free time somewhere you can talk to your friends and actually hear what they’re saying.
  • Find a friend who has the same attitude as yourself. Whilst everyone else wastes a bunch of money at a nightclub, you can treat yourself to pizza, booze and films at your place!
  • Don’t feel unwelcome just because you aren’t a regular at the bar. If you fancy a night out, go for it. No one will judge you. No one cares enough. They will just be happy you’re there!
  • Do what makes you happy, and stop worrying about what others think of you.
  • Despite all the above, just try to enjoy yourself. It doesn’t last long, and I can’t imagine there is much freedom after graduation!

Hope you’ve had a nice day, lovelies!
How was your university experience? Did you live the typical student life, or find a different path?


17 thoughts on “What I Learned From Two Socially Awkward Years at University

  1. I relate to this. I’d much rather stay at home, watch a film or read a book, than go out and party all night. I won’t deny that I enjoy going out from time to time, but I can’t do it constantly. It’s way too noisy and crowded and I hate the fact that you have to yell just to slightly understand each other.

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    • Exactly. Me and Matt can have drinks and music and fun at home so we never feel like we’re missing out. I guess students who live in student accommodation don’t have somewhere as comfortable and their own!


  2. I wish I’d met someone like you when I was in uni! You could’ve helped me avoid such hassles. ๐Ÿ˜› I got really caught up in it all, not really sure why as I usually much prefer to be at home. Probably was just buzzing off the energy around me. Now the only club you’ll find me in is my living room with my husband. No regrets though, live and learn.

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    • Haha! See, that’s what I mean it’s so easy to get caught in the atmosphere :). I just never cared enough to go out. I’ve been there 2 years and still haven’t stepped foot into the student club, can’t believe it! :p
      I’d much rather be at home with my lovelies too :).


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  4. I was never a “typical” student, either…didn’t want to be, and didn’t want to be at university when everyone else my age was… I was more concerned back then with knowing myself, rather than who other people thought I should be… So I quit for a long time and went abroad for a while, and had a baby…. I finished my degree a few years ago, and have been using it in non-traditional ways… I guess that’s just par for the course of my life! So glad I don’t care that my path is the one less traveled!

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